Part Three In the “Dancing in the Land of Spiritual Bypassing” Series: Sallyโ€™s Story

โ€œLolitaโ€ is defined by Websterโ€™s dictionary as a โ€œprecociously seductive girl.โ€ The name and its meaning originate from Nabokovโ€™s novel Lolita โ€“ a jarring tale of the sexual victimization of a child by the narrator. I empathize with Lolita in this article as I was often the youngest woman at contact events and found myself repeatedly sexualized. I also frequently noticed my voice dismissed as I was a new dancer. Furthermore, when I was young, I had a condition called โ€˜precocious pubertyโ€™ that caused premature development in my body and initiated my long, complex battle with PTSD. โ€œThe biggest crime in Nabokovโ€™s โ€˜Lolitaโ€™ is imposing your own dream upon someone elseโ€™s reality. Humbert Humbert is blind. He doesnโ€™t see Lolitaโ€™s reality. He doesnโ€™t see that Lolita should leave. He only sees Lolita as an extension of his own obsession. This is what a totalitarian state does.โ€ -Azar Nafisi

Part Two In the “Dancing in the Land of Spiritual Bypassing” Series: Kateโ€™s Story

A year ago I was a newcomer to contact improvisation (CI) who had been attending jams for about two months. But then I had a negative experience that caused me to end my involvement in the improvisation community. I had a one-time sexual encounter with someone who is a CI dancer and a local community leader. I gave feedback to the person telling him I was upset about what had happened...

Part One In The “Dancing in the Land of Spiritual Bypassing” Series: Doritโ€™s Story

I sit in my garden with my eyes closed and meditate. I chant,โ€œThere are no weeds. There are no weedsโ€. Yet there are weeds! And if I pretend they are not there, I will not be adequately set up to deal with them. And if I do not see the weeds, I am more likely to blame the vegetables for growing poorly. I sit in a studio with a hundred other people. I am looking out large windows at a mountain view, and find comfort nestled in this mountain valley. It is the start of a retreat, and the participants all sit in a circle awaiting the opening instructions. I feel brave or perhaps naรฏve or a mix of both. I say this because I have returned to this retreat where I was sexually assaulted a year previously. The retreat organizers dealt with the assault in an appropriate manner and made many changes to their event to increase safety. But still, I am feeling unsure how being here will work out for me...

Steps for Preventing Sexual Assault at Relational Movement Based Events

Author: Kathleen ReaPublished October, 2021I was inspired to write this post after reading a tongue-in-cheek list of how to prevent sexual assaults, which instead of the usual focus on the potential victim, had a list of points focused on the person who may feel predatory urges. This list sarcastically mocks the assault prevention tips that... Continue Reading →

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